okie for some updates! yesterday i went to dear's house to cook lunch for him. went to clementi's NTUC and just grab whatever i need and decided to cook jap curry with beef stew for him! hehe! as some of u may already know, i don't know how to cook, or rather, put it more accurately, i've never really cooked a meal! so i wanted to give it a try and do something for my dear.... so i just gave it a shot!!
wahaha i just anyhow whack...coz its not my kitchen, i needed some help from dear to tell me where his spices are etc. and thanks dear for helping me peel potatoes! coz i dunno how to peel using knive haha. i anyhow just aga aga marinated the beef cubes with whatever i have...boiled the potatoes..etc etc. it was really an experience...
1 red pepper
jap curry spices
some additional spices to marinate
and it turned out really nice! i had to stir fry the beef first! i did it 90% myself! right dear! hehe and whether it turned out nice or not...heh heh. dear! u gotta tell them! :) i found it quite nice hehehe especially for my first time! but the rice was super soggy though, added too much water. that was a big mistake but the rest turned out okay! =) i had a great time...and more importantly, this dish is specially for dear...next time will have more and more home cooked meals! =) hee love u!
see the curry! =)
as for today! i went to meet yiling and jia min with xl to treat them lunch for their belated birthdays! @ long john silver...heez. seems like it has become a tradition to go there....oh wells! its nice catching up with them
after which i went to meet mei ling with xin ling to sing k box @ marina! =)
sang from 2-7pm. very shiok. haha. i sang almost all that i wanted to sing..sing till i tired already...hahaha. i sang a lot a lot! happy! but was missing dear...heez. can't wait for k box with guitar dearies next sat! wah everyweek k box once...quite tiring actually heez! but its the company thats fun! this's us!
after k box, we went to yoshinoya for dinner...and we had a 1 hour conversation... in general, we talked about marriage, bgr and stuff like that.
1. 'zhi zuo' --> also means stubborness in lay man's term
mei ling was talking about how she was really stubborn in the past, in the sense that if she really wants something, she must get it. and then she said this...after so many years...all these stubborness has only given her one thing - 'high blood pressure'. now, she has to eat medicine every morning because of it....and she was telling us that we should learn to let go, and not hold on to things so tightly...must be able to live openly and stuff like that.
i agree that we should let go of certain things...but to me, as a christian, it's important to really be able to let go of things that are wordly. For example, holding on to money, career, grades, material possessions, anger, grudges etc etc... these will not bring us to heaven. Rather, we should hold on to love, Godly relationships, faith, and most imporatntly, God's word. Today, i was thinking about 'forgive & forget'. I've come across people who hold on to grudges, just being unwilling to forgive someone no matter what...perhaps this someone has been hurt by a friend or loved one in a certain way....but Jesus said on the day of His crusification, 'Father, forgive them for they do not know what they're doing'. Even to the point of death, He forgave those who hurt them....for me, i always encourage people to let go of grudges and forgive...because to me, by holding on to grudges, the person who is most hurt is yourself...for you've chosen not to let yourself go...it becomes a burden in your heart and it'll just makes one lose the trust in all relationships, not just friendships.
2. Marriage & BGR
We were talking about different views of marriage and bgr...and amongst us, there were differing thoughts about it. One of them talked about how it is troublesome to get into a relationship and sometimes its just not worth it for a woman coz when your bf is less capable than u, u just can't gain anything out of it..so wads the point? Another said that by being in a relationship, you would be able to have that someone to talk to..sometimes being alone is very tiring coz u can't share all your thoughts..and so, it is better to have someone to talk to, but to that someone, she believes that the couple should not share money..they should spend their money separtely....as for marriage, it's troublesome and its different being married and being a dating couple...somehow, marriage will change the couple's character and personality...eg, when u get married, your wife changes from a quiet, peaceful lady to a fierce, domineering wife...
my take is that...when u get into a relationship, its not about getting what you want out of it..its not about expectations..it's not about what u can gain out of it. Neither is it about reciprocal love or for the sake of wanting to be loved...rather, it's about God's plan for you. The one that is meant for you, as your soulmate, is the right one for you. To me, a relationship is something that allows you and your partner to experience God's love together...to walk in this Christian journey together, as one body in Christ...true love comes from God. For without Him, there's no love..and the greatest of all is Jesus's sacrificial love...that He gave His only son to die on the cross for us all. Often, as humans, we expect something out of a relationship...but really, we shouldn't expect anything out of it...but rather, we should do everything out of love for that one person, without expecting anything in return...that's true love. Doing everything out of love, for your soulmate, and for God...believing in Him, trusting in Him that He will provide for this relationship. Marriage is a commitment..it's not troublesome...rather, it's something so special, so unique...a bond not to be broken...and when you build God's family, spreading His word to the next generation, it's just something so wonderful...to see your child fulfilling God's glory and purpose. =) thats just my take in this matter....well, many thoughts went through my mind today..just had to pend it down. Different ppl have different thoughts...i'm not saying i'm right, neither am i saying others are wrong...but well, thats just my perspective about some issues! =)
ok, enough said! such a long post! anyway dear set up a combined blog! when its ready i'll put the link here! hmm still deciding whether i should continue with this personal blog! will miss it though! heez
tmr gotta go back sch for booth duty (4 hours! my gosh!) followed by tim's bday party! tim's dear's friend...heez. =) ohh and i gotta start doing my prayer pointers since i'm prayer i/c for my misison trip! =)